The past few months or even a year has created an uproar among women. A surge of energy that almost every woman has felt. This hidden rage has been building up in us for decades, centuries and it’s coming out now.
No longer are women allowing men to feel comfortable with misogynistic and inappropriate behaviour. No longer are we standing by, smiling nicely so these men can carry on running the world. No longer are women silent.
This is an incredible time for women. And I know so many men who are afraid of the rage that is coming out. But I also know so many men cheering women on, supporting all to speak their truth and recognizing that change is necessary and now is the time. And to those men, I am so grateful.
And to the women, now IS the time, to stand up, feel the rage, be empowered and shift it to love.
Allow me to explain. I was so full of rage and anger for the women unable to speak, the women who were shut down for speaking and towards the men getting away with terrible crimes. I spoke my rage and I wrote about my anger, mindful and careful about where or unto who it was unleashed. But I felt my rage fully and wholeheartedly and I began to feel freer. I began to feel fully capable of moving forward with love. All because I didn’t shove my emotions down, I didn’t try to control them. I allowed myself to feel the anger, the hurt without pretending to be strong and silent. I allowed my feminine energy to be free and deal with everything as it needed to be. And it felt good. I released until I felt empty of the rage, I felt lighter. I now feel like I don’t need to force myself into loving energy. I just flows.
And this the next important step because after we feel the rage, where do we go from there? What do we do with it?
We need to move forward with love because that is how we will bring about change. We have seen the effects of using force, hatred and anger and the results are not helpful or conducive to positive, lasting change. We are acting to protect and lift up what we love instead of fighting against what we hate. When we can do this, all things become possible in an easy and graceful way.
I feel at peace with all my forward movement.
Charissa
What you bring up is an essential aspect of growth for so many people. For women, anger is the emotion we are “not supposed to” feel, let alone express. For men, I feel anger is often discharged so quickly they lose the necessary conversation with the wisdom that is at the core of its rise. Both of these are a type of spiritual bypass. Women get over the anger in order to get on with the love while men dispense with the anger in order to get on with the love.
I read an exceptional article on the value of anger (1). As one who would far prefer to bypass anger, it’s essential for the development of my emotional intelligence to pay attention when anger arises. First, what is activating this anger in me? Have I been devalued in comparison with another and I feel the need to assert my worth? Has an injustice been committed against myself or another? Have I strayed or been pushed off course from my goals? Am I living in a situation that is not in harmony with my deep belief system?
From a group workshop I recently participated in, we can follow this anger (in the workshop, we called it judgement) from the external protector to the internal protected. Is there something that the anger is protecting in me? Do I feel helpless? abandoned or alone? fearful? Is there a smaller self hiding behind that big feeling of anger? This process helps me to experience myself more fully.
Finally, this process reminded me of the emotional guidance scale of Abraham-Hicks (2). I was always surprised to find anger at #17 out of 22. When I look to the bottom of the scale, it makes sense. At #22 we find Fear/Grief/Depression/Despair/Powerlessness. In this space our energy to act is extremely low. We are either frozen or non-functional at this level. Anger has a higher vibration as we are inspired to act – to DO SOMETHING about it. For those who have dipped to #22, anger, indeed, feels like life returning.
Thanks for your blog! I look forward to following along.
1. Good Therapy – The Value of Anger (https://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/value-of-anger-16-reasons-its-good-to-get-angry-0313175)
2. Abraham-Hicks Emotional Scale (https://www.discoveringpeace.com/the-abraham-hicks-emotional-guidance-scale.html)